Sharyn (absconded_mind) wrote in adoptees,

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Both At Once

Hi everyone, im new here so a quick intro: Im an adoptee (obviously), reunited with my birth mother for a year now, and have infrequent contact with my birth father for 3 months.

My birth mother has always been upfront about who my birth father was and felt it was my choice whether to contact him as i did her. Her only request was that i not get her involved in our reunion, which i understand and respect. However, since being in contact with both him and his mother both "sides" are now inquiring as to what the other party is doing with me or telling me. Suddenly ive become similar to the child whose separated parents are trying to outdo each others efforts to gain approval.

Do any of you have tips or advice for me? I really want (and need!) this behaviour to stop. Its making me feel awkward and wary of discussions between us.
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